Dating mates ex girlfriend
You can spend time and mental energy finding all kinds of justifications for your choices, but that’s not going to be helpful, ultimately.
You believe this relationship could be serious and real, so why not stop hiding? You can’t expect your friend to be happy for you, not right away, at least, and perhaps not ever.
What they are doing is really uncool and unacceptable.
Your ex and "your friend" are the ones who should feel stupid, NOT YOU! Their relationship is working because of the "scandalous and forbidden" element. When that wears off, and everyone in the community moves on to the next piece of gossip, and your ex and your friend really get to know each other, the appeal will fade. He or she could be doing this to you to act out his or her passive aggressive anger.
The relationship lasted for about 6 months (I think) and years later, I've come to realize how silly and stupid I was for having the reaction I did. Grit your teeth, accept it, act classy and show grace to the outside world. She is also the author of her new divorce novel with the same name, as well as her other divorce novel, FREE GIFT WITH PURCHASE. Pilossoph is a weekly business features reporter and columnist for Sun-Times Media.
I hated them and everyone else who I thought could possibly know about their relationship. I thought about them giggling and laughing and kissing and being blissfully happy. The fact that this girl did this to you is probably making you feel insecure about girl friendships. They will assure you that they are your best friends and that you are loved. A good friend used to say to me, "You're on your own road. " Lastly, if you are on the other end of this, meaning if you are the one who starts dating your friend's ex, PLEASE handle it this way. Jackie Pilossoph is the author of the blog, Divorced Girl Smiling.
She, or others, may try to make you feel guilty or ashamed of what has happened. Is it unfortunate that you have fallen for your friend’s ex? Would it have been better to talk with her before things got to this point? However, all you can do now is own your choices and move forward with honesty and integrity.There are a few different things that happened during the time I was newly separated that caused me to classify myself as temporarily psychotic, one of those being when I figured out "my ex is dating my friend! Here was a woman who I thought was my good girlfriend. We had gotten together a few times and I had told her things -- personal things about my ex and our relationship, why I was getting divorced, etc. I wish I could tell you otherwise, but I think you already know this. You feel this man could be the love of your life, and you’ve chosen to begin a relationship with him.I think what you are looking for is a way to share this with your friend without losing her friendship. I think you are also hoping to alleviate some guilt you may be feeling about hurting someone you care deeply about.