Intense fear of dating
We’ve been dating for 8 months and love each other. nicolem28 wrote: I’m engaged to an AF guy and he’s been gone 50% of our relationship.He’s in the Navy and deployed somewhere in the Middle East… This trip he’s on now has been awful since he has minimal communication opportunities, so I understand how the doubt can creep in. if they make it through the training and first deployment they can make it through anything.Anonymous wrote: Guys usually don’t communicate the way women do. The best I would get was a “miss you Babe” on a phone call. Then he tells me that he doesn’t know if he has the same feelings for me anymore.I know my husband loves me and missed me on deployments. Happy Little Girl wrote: I am experiencing my first deployment away from the most fantastic man I’ve ever met besides my father.Firstly, she says that people with these traits tend to be afraid of being hurt because of their experience of past relationships so this is a great place to start.If they’ve been in a previous relationship that ended badly or their parents separated venomously they might be less likely commit out of fear.
But then again, it could've just seemed that way because of my inexperience. It's odd for someone my age to be completely inexperienced.
If couples really don’t understand or feel what the other is going through, they’ll still have a disconnect whether they communicate a lot or a little.
Dawson: Do you have suggestions for how loved ones should approach those rare, unscheduled, middle-of-the-night phone calls? Be safe, stay focused, we’re all going to get through this!
They also tend to put their own needs first, refrain from sharing intimate details and are likely to panic at the mere mention of the ‘c’ word.
If you’re still not convinced whether or not your partner is holding back, it can help to take a look at other areas of their life too.